Category Archives: General adoption topics

A wrap-up to my unplanned week of posts on diversity and transracial adoption

In case you missed any of them, below are all five posts I wrote this week on the topic of race, diversity, and transracial adoption. Feel free to share these with anyone you think might benefit from them. Thanks! Different, … Continue reading

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Friday Five: Confessions of a transracially adoptive parent

1. Yes, sometimes I think we’re better than you because we adopted. Hey, as long as I confess it, you can’t get mad at me, right? Listen: I know it’s not true, and I almost always remember that. Really. Yes, I think more couples (and Jesus-followers, … Continue reading

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Questions and a book

I really hadn’t planned on making this Diversity Week here on the blog, but I’m glad it’s worked out that way. We’ve had some great discussions (here’s part 1, part 2, and part 3), and I really appreciate the thoughtful comments … Continue reading

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Brown child, white town

There’s a restaurant in our town that has the following message on one side of its sign out front: Let’s take back our country! The owner is very politically conservative and believes two of the greatest evils eroding our nation’s character are illegal … Continue reading

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Different, like everyone else (continued)

On a sunny Saturday afternoon a few months after we brought Yoselin home in 2008 we decided to check out a weekend festival at the fairgrounds. We ran into a girl we’d gone to school with, and we talked about … Continue reading

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Different, like everyone else

Just before Mother’s Day, 2008, I stood at the cash register at a local business buying Lyndie her gift. Yosi, not even a year old, sat in a sling on my hip. The older woman behind the counter smiled at … Continue reading

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The meaning of permanence

Today is the final post in my series with Melanie. Melanie lived with Lyndie and I in 2006 after finding out she was pregnant and choosing to place her baby for adoption. Today we are looking back at the day … Continue reading

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“I hate boys” and other insights from the maternity ward

October 6th, 2006 I went into labor and called the Tways to make the 2 hour journey to meet us at the hospital. They arrived as labor was progressing and stayed in the delivery room with me, along with my … Continue reading

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Meeting Melanie

On Monday I shared a little about how adoptive parents feel about birthmothers after making the initial decision to adopt. We feel defensive, scared. We get over it, but it takes time. For us, that happened in the most beautiful way possible. … Continue reading

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How I learned to stop worrying and love birthmothers

Birthmothers get no respect. Or, at least, they got no respect from us, until we lived with one. The early attitude of first time adoptive parents toward the birthmother as an institution is initially one of fear and defensiveness. Fortunately, we … Continue reading

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